Beyond the ordinary
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Beyond the ordinary
when did it start?
I have suffered with anxiety since i was around 6? Ruffly.
Growing up around Alcohol, Bullying, Bad people.
My mum has been my biggest supporter, same with my grandparents and brother. Now also my mums partner and his daughter too.
Things that help me.
It has took me 16 years to find things that work, I do still struggle but these tips help me alot.
-Holding a piece of ice in my hand works for shock therapy, focusing on the pain on my hand rather than the things running through my mind and surroundings.
-Grounding techniques, small things such as sitting on the floor, playing music quietly so you need to then concentrate extra on the music without worrying about your balance, I tend to do this while holding ice or having my hand in cold water in a bowl.
- Breathing, i know this one is difficult when you are alone but focus on breathing in for 5 seconds, holding it in for 5 seconds and back out again for 5 seconds. Try repeating it until you feel better in your chest. When i'm alone and struggle to do this, i tend to put youtube on, for guided breathing meditation, where someone guides you through it.
- Comfort, When im anxious my comfort is reassurance. I do have other things too such as Music, A cold/hot drink which is good for shock therapy. A walk this is great as when your heart is going fast, light exercise helps trick your body into thinking thats why your hearts going fast. Not because your anxiety. However reassurance is my main one, i have safety questions due to my eating disorder but the others work too. It depends on why i am anxious.
Empty anxiety.
This is which anxiety i got diagnosed with, the endless cycle of "what if", "what's next?!, "why?". Endless questions usually resulting in feeling overwhemed, sad, and more anxiety.
I got diagnosed with this in CAHMS, i had such a bad experience there which resulted with me being secondary degree therapy at the age of 12. Which was also a bad experience, My anxiety over the years have never gotten better, i have just learnt to cope a bit better.
And hoping this may help other people, Obviously i do also have normal anxiety where i will get random panic attacks but empty anxiety always followed it with questions.
One thing that causes this is being alone, im petrofied of being alone due to trauma. Feeling unwell is another thing, i have very bad health anxiety which makes my eating disorder kick off. That endless cycle causes insomia usually which is a normal thing with anxiety and my tiggers.
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